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STEPMOM CHAT ROOM: THE GOOD - THE BAD - THE UGLY
For stepmoms who do not have access to stepfamily support groups, chat rooms are a lifesaver. They provide quick and easy access to others who have been there and are prepared to share their successful strategies with others.
Points to Consider
When you join a chat room, there are a couple of points to keep in mind.
First, as you read and respond to another stepmoms, keep in mind that there is more than one side in any given situation : the stepmom, her partner, the stepchildren and the ex-wife. You are only hearing one part of the story.
Secondly, providing emotional support does not mean you must blindly agree with another stepmom's actions. It is about remaining non-judgmental - neither condemning nor condoning - her actions while validating or recognizing her feelings.
Lastly, if you carelessly agree with another stepmom's perspective, you may unwittingly encourage her to become entrenched in her position.
Become a Stepmom Mentor by offering thoughtful comments and practical suggestions. This way, you become a part of a more effective support system for the troubled stepmom.
Chat rooms with several Stepmom Mentors are the most helpful. Chat rooms or forums that are characterized by vindictive venting, labeling or criticizing other stepmoms are not so helpful.
Enjoy the fellowship, peer support and camaraderie of other stepmoms and choose your chat room carefully.
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